Parenting
Digital Addicts
Help your child thrive in a healthy environment where the use of electronic gadgets and telecommunication devices is minimal.
Childhood is the most significant time in the development of an individual. If the conditions are not optimal for a child to thrive and survive, there are lasting impacts on his physical and mental health and personality development. Digital addiction in children is a serious concern, and awareness must be created around the adverse effects of this grave matter. In addition to that, serious steps need to be taken to create awareness around this, and work should be done to facilitate a much-needed change.
So, what is digital addiction? It is a condition where people compulsively and excessively use their gadgets to access the internet or for another purpose to the point that it disrupts their daily lives, responsibilities, and mental and physical health. Children are the most vulnerable to this addiction because their developing brains can be conditioned to the reward mechanism associated with instant gratification from online content.
These days, children spend an unlimited amount on electronic devices to the extent of addiction because of the compulsive use of electronic devices, and any free time is spent hiding behind electronic devices. Its addictive nature is evident from the withdrawal symptoms that a child displays when the use of the gadget is reduced. There are tantrums, mood irritability, and behavioral issues, and most parents, in the face of this, give in and hand over the gadget back to the child. Children compromise their eating and sleep to stay on digital platforms for hours. There is less physical activity, and the effects of it on physical health are a vast area in itself.
For most children, it has become a fixation where social connection is compromised. Unfortunately, most parents have found a co-parent or a digital babysitter lurking in these smart gadgets. Unlike when parents had to spend their energy engaging a two-year-old, for example, through play, these days gadgets will be the solution for many parenting challenges like a child not eating or running around with excessive energy. Unfortunately, the child at such a tender age is suppressed within the world of electronic devices.
Research shows that there are more mental health challenges experienced by children these days as compared to the last decade. Anxiety and panic attacks are more common. Smart gadgets overstimulate the brain, and the nervous system is hyper-activated and stimulated, releasing excessive stress hormones known as cortisol. Children sublimate their abundance of energy in the digital world and not through physical activity, which leads to depression, especially as children are not getting any avenue to express themselves emotionally like before through play, arts, or sports.
So, many introverts growing up have learned to shut down their thoughts and emotions or sublimate them to electronic devices. Physical activity releases endorphins, whereas cooped up indoors produces a sense of isolation, and lack of social connectivity leads to depression at a very early age. Lack of physical activity leads to obesity, which in turn creates self-image issues.
Human beings need social connection for survival, and so this isolation is enacted in later stages of life in the form of mental health issues like social anxiety disorders, for example, as there are fewer social skills learned. A child needs social relations to develop his sense of self and interact with family and peers. The social isolation will impair his ability to form healthy relationships in adulthood. The child starts to feel safe in isolation with his smartphone, giving him a sense of control. With limited interaction with people, less conflict is experienced, which affects his conflict management, making life very difficult in adulthood when conflict is an integral part of his professional and personal life.
A child needs social relations to develop his sense of self and interact with family and peers. The social isolation will impair his ability to form healthy relationships in adulthood.
The digital world has become a vessel for escaping conflict and is a very unhealthy coping mechanism. There is increased aggression, mood instability, and declined quality of sleep, as well as a lack of ability to regulate emotions in children these days.
There is also a decline in concentration span, so a child slowly and gradually loses focus and exhibits short-term memory issues, and more cases of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (A.D.H.D.) have been reported than ever before. Children face learning difficulties and a lack of interest in education.
Exposure to adult material is a big issue, too, as children try to understand what they are watching on their own. For example, porn addiction is a serious concern. It is essential to know that a child will process all the uncensored information on his own, which becomes a fixed pattern in his psyche regarding how he perceives the world. Children will also have self-esteem issues when they are exposed to many experiences digitally that they perceive to be superior to theirs. The digital world is a fantasy world, and a child is vulnerable to identifying with it, losing his sense of reality, or experiencing frustration and feeling inadequate at such a young age.
Childhood suicide is another extreme consequence. When a child’s brain is overstimulated with information beyond his understanding, he can identify with anything depending on how it’s presented. Parents not only enable this addiction but also keep minimal checks and balances for their convenience.
Symptoms of internet addiction in children include quickly losing track of time, withdrawal symptoms, sleep disturbances, neglect of responsibilities, decline in academic performance, lying about or hiding online activities, preoccupation with the internet, isolation, and failed attempts to cut back on internet use.
Mental health is everything. Help your child thrive in a healthy environment where the use of gadgets is on a use basis only. A child needs family and peers to learn how to connect to himself and others. A child needs connection before correction, so stand your ground and work on being more present for your child so he chooses you over any smart gadget in this world.
The writer is psychotherapist and a freelance contributor. She can be reached at zaramaqbool@yahoo.com
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